This was originally part of a bigger blog post but I deleted the first part. This is about the whole "I'm bluntly honest" thing. It's good to be honest with friends, but it's also good to be considerate. Telling a sensitive, soft friend who is in an emotional funk to snap the hell out of it will probably not help them very much, especially if you know they internalize all their emotions. That's like punching a snail in the face. If you have a friend that you know will appreciate your honesty and just can't get out of their emotional funk, then you probably could just straight up say, "hey hey, snap out of it" and they could totally just do that.
Pretty much... there is no one-size-fits-all approach (is that the phrase?) to being honest. That's like using the same hammer for every job. Or, in this case, sledgehammer. You'd probably wreck some delicate things by hammering in a point with a sledgehammer if it's not meant to be hammered in with a sledgehammer.
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